Relationships

“Greetings, hello. This evening we were asked to come with a topic, and we have come prepared to speak about relationships. Is this one of your favorite topics?… Perhaps it is one of your favorite and least favorite all at the same time, yes? What we would like to do with this is to put it in some context and then open to questions. In this kind of topical work, if there is something that we are speaking and it is unclear please ask your questions as we go. There will be plenty of time for questioning because that is part of the unfoldment, part of the co-creation that we are here with you to do.”

“So, Relationships…. This life that you have chosen into you chose immediately to be in relationships. You could not help it. You had a mother that gave you birth and a father that brought you into this life. You had siblings perhaps either before or after you, you had grandparents, relatives, neighborhoods, etc., so you were born into relationships. Now what is relationship? Relationship is interconnectedness energetically, emotionally and physically. Those three levels are called the astral plane and the etheric/physical plane. These are the strongest relationship patternings that you feel and that you experience. You are also connected at a spirit plane above the astral and etheric/physical plane. That plane is also very real but not experienced very much until you will grow in consciousness and awareness and open to that level in your self. So we will begin with the first levels of experience in physical form and then work our way into the spirit levels and tell you a little about the implications of each.

Physical patterning

“At the physical plane you are very familiar. That is where you have your needs met or not met, your needs for touch, for holding, for rocking, for nurturing, for nursing; all of those things that begin when you are born. Actually it begins before you were born, since you were rocked in the womb. But we will start with the physical manifestation of the body as an independent self. These needs are met either adequately, excellently, poorly or not at all. Each of you has in your beginning of this life begun physical relationships and patterns based on what was your physical experience in the body. Primarily the first six months develop your physical relationships that pattern you from then on. If you had adequate amount of touch in the first six months, then you are comfortable with touch and you find that you have a sense of interrelationship with others that includes that comfortably. There is not a sense of fear or a sense of longing or separation from it and then wanting it because it was not fulfilled in those first six months. If your physical needs for attention were not responded to when you had discomfort and cried, then you have an expectation that when you ask or make a request to the universe or to your mother, etc., you do not expect a physical response.”

“Now what we would say of many parents of those sitting here this evening is that in that particular generation there were some rather odd but very prevalent teachings that these ones picked up about parenting. One was that you put the child in a place that was safe but somewhat removed such as playpens and things that kept you safe and there was very little touch as a general measure. There were feedings on four hour rotations and there was the sense that if a child cried then most often let them cry because then they will not get too spoiled. Are we accurate for some of you? Can you understand what happened to your physical patterning in some of those cases? What we would like to do as we take you into each of these steps is take you into a brief visualization that will assist you to alter your original patterning. Some of that has already been taking place in your own healing work, and yet many of you do not go back that far. You may be going back only to age two, three, or four. However, the first six months are where your physical patterns have been formed. It is now that you have relationships later in life that you begin to realize that you have these things that show up over and over again. This is one of the areas that shows up in close personal relationships where touch and expectations of response to needs is one of the base areas of difficulty or challenge. So with your permission we would like to assist with some restructuring.

Process

“Close your eyes and breathe down and let your consciousness drift down into your heart center and in your heart center there is a cradle… and in that cradle is your self… Go up to that little one and look in that little one’s eyes…..as you look into this one’s eyes say their name and begin to gently lift them into your arms….. holding this one very close to your heart ….. begin gently to let your heart center open to the great mother/father love of the universe and embrace this one with that love….. invite that little one of your heart to gently reach into memory and release the early programming around touch and physical response to needs and you breathe for this one as it loosens up in your energy field. Breathe and allow it to release. It releases out of the etheric/physical body very close to the skin… the nervous system… the touch system. If there is any fear or any lack ask it to release into the great mother.. the great father.. of love. As this one releases then gently begin to stroke this one’s hair, and gently around the face, very softly very gently. Down through the body… down through the arms and the chest until you are stroking and touching the little one’s entire body………. Now tell this little one that if it has any needs to let you know in whatever ways it needs to do so… through crying… through putting its arms up, through whatever means it has, and you now form a connection… an intuitive bonding connection to this one so that you can feel this one’s needs and intuit them as well as receive their physical cues. Open and allow this connection to be made and then the little one relaxes… feeling the connection… knowing that you were able to respond to this one’s needs, sometimes even before the cue is given. This one now opens to receive, as do you, for this one is also an aspect of you within you. This one opens to receive all that is needed in the physical universe… all that is needed from others in relationship in a physical response… all that is needed for touch that opens the body to receive great joy. When this is complete for you put the little one back in the cradle or continue holding it if you wish and slowly bring yourself back and open your eyes………”

Emotional patterning

“The next level where you are connected with each other is the emotional plane. The emotional plane is one where there is an entire gridwork of energy already formed when you enter a family unit. If you are first in the family then it is between the parenting ones. If there is a single parent then it is between the single parent and whoever else is significant, but there are energy grids that are emotional interconnections on an astral level. Most often they are based in a separated or dualistic energy configuration; one does not perceive self to be whole but sees the self as incomplete or needing another to complete the self for different reasons. This emotional network that you are born into becomes familiar very quickly but usually is formed within a child over about the first two years in the sense that energetically you still have a sort of protection most often unless there is some abuse that breaks the protection open. Usually there is some protection for a good period of time where the child sleeps quite a lot and is in spirit much of the time. The child is not fully in the gridwork of the astral/emotional energy of their family, so it takes a little longer than the physical to fully pattern this level. When the family’s emotional gridwork becomes yours as well, the particular attributes of the mother and whatever is her patterning of emotional response becomes familiar to you. This is true of the father, siblings or others who have already patterned within this gridwork. If there is fear then you begin to feel that sense of fear, caution, or whatever is predominant.”

“What happens is that a child begins to form their own gridwork at around eighteen months or a little later. The third center opens up and begins to form what is called cording. Cording is the emotional attachment that gives you the sense that this is my family, my home, what is safe for me. It is where ones do not want to leave the safety of what is familiar. It is why when there is abuse in a family system there is still much cording, sometimes very intense cording, so that even though there is pain, there is also attachment, and all that attachment becomes corded to the pain, the fear, the patterning and gridwork of your family’s system. That is why when you do healing work most often you have to do inner child healing, as it is through the inner child that you access the gridwork of the emotions. You may not have consciousness of all of that. In a conscious sense you may just feel it because you are picking it up from the pre-conscious child’s information system, but it still is there.”

“What happens when you go into relationships is that you try to re-configure yourself in a familiar pattern. You will pull ones into your field of energy that match something that was in your original family unit or patterning, and then you play out what is your part again until you become conscious. When you become conscious that this is becoming an old story and that you have gone through this before you begin to see that it is not ‘out there’ where someone is creating it, it is some how part of you and that you are creating it. That is the beginning of shifting and changing the pattern. The physical pattern and the emotional pattern can be reprogrammed, and relationships help you identify your emotional and physical programs. Relationships are intended to help you become conscious, particularly in this age. Personal relationships that you draw to you are not accidental. They are by agreement at some level intended to help both parties come to an awareness of what is yet the webbing at the lower frequencies of your own embodiment. What is no longer essential, what is in a sense extraneous, can be released and can be opened so that the true blueprint of your original self can be freed to relate according to what is innate or born within you. This is secondary programming that we are speaking of, not innate, so it can be changed. What is innate is not changed, what is innate comes out and is your essence made manifest. It is what others see or feel of you, perhaps not able to describe it, but they relate to you on that level at times and enjoy knowing you at that level and you enjoy knowing them.”

Do you have any questions about this emotional plane?

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHERE THE CORDING IS AND HOW DO YOU RELEASE IT?

“By identifying first of all the cording that is yet present. You identify cording by those places that you feel pulled in and hooked by someone else energetically. In the sense that you feel there is an attachment, there is something that is not free for you, then there is a cording usually there. When you identify it then you can begin the the process of opening to release it. Sometimes it is not released all at once because there are levels of your own being that in some places needs a certain amount of the cording with others until you become strong enough to stand on your own. This allows you to grow in safety and in congruency or integrity. So you see, the child needs some connections to feel bonded, to feel loved, to feel that the family is around the child. Some of it is necessary, but at a certain point you need to be autonomous.”

Process

“We will do a little re-programming on this level too, if you like. With this level then we will be again moving back. But because there is also cording with emotional patterns that you have carried into other relationships, when we say to bring into you those ones that fit your original emotional gridwork or patterning please allow all who show up to be present. So again relax and breathe and bring your focus back into your heart, for your heart opens into the vastness of love, bringing with it all that is needed for every aspect of you that is yet a little fearful or has some pain as a matter of life experience. So first just let yourself absorb what you need around any emotional trauma that you yet hold. Breathe that into the place that yet holds the trauma, gently receive and release and breathe creating a very beautiful safe loving space for yourself and into which you can bring one who is around the age of two. A beautiful child with much life energy running through this one’s body…….. Look at this child and again speak this ones name….. and as you do then ask the child to bring into view all that have been part of forming the emotional matrix that is familiar to this one. Let anyone show up that is part of this emotional matrix. As you look at this one you will see little cords running into and out of the third center and heart center to some degree that connects the matrix to the matrix of these other ones, so there is a webbing of sorts that has been created, and all are interconnected. Ask in this time for a very vivid blue light to highlight all of those cords in the matrix that can be dissolved, that have no further usefulness. They become almost iridescent as they are highlighted. They become stronger now with love… follow each of those cords to the person that it is connected with and with intent thank this one for the part that they have played in your emotional make-up, and for whatever purpose they had in your path of growth and evolution and when you are ready then breathe and allow the blue to dissolve the cord between you. So you breathe out and the cord begins to dissolve….. Do this for as many as are highlighted, one at a time, for each deserves individual attention. Now let come into the picture any others who fit this original emotional program and do the same process with them…….As you complete this part put green in the areas where the cords have been attached. This will etherically heal and close those openings. If there are still cords left, then they still have some usefulness either for you or the other one. Those cords, if any, are yet to dissolve at another time perhaps.”

“So now open into your heart and allow your own innate emotions to surface, that which feels, senses, and knows the truth of who you are. It is natural for you as a spontaneous light embodied Being to feel in this body because you are a feeling being, an emotional being. That is part of your design, your nature. So now ask for and bring in whatever other colors you need to enhance this innate emotional nature because that will be different for each of you. You are unique and the rainbow that you draw in will be unique to you for your expression, your way of being here. Your way of feeling is yours. So play with the color palate. Open in and breathe way down now, into your pelvis….. Everyone’s Essential nature knows joy, knows love and knows what truth feels like… Everyone. You are recovering your natural innate instincts and knowing on these levels of feeling. As the other matrix clears and the cording releases it’s very easy to know what you feel. It’s easier to know what is true. It is easier to know what makes you happy and feel alive. It is easier to know what is true free unconditional love, spirit to spirit, and what is love that has a hook on it. You can recognize the difference. So breathe again…….. gently bring yourself back and open your eyes….. By intent you set into motion whatever you desire… The ultimate goal is to be free. To be truly free within your own sense of yourself, forming by choice interconnections with others for purposes that bring joy, harmony, peace, love, and truth into manifest form. For yourself and for the world…..”

Definition of conscious relationship

“A conscious relationship moves out of the astral/physical plane and begins to move into a co-creative energetic union that has specific intent. The intent may be for a short time or for a very long time. You may not always know, and yet the freer each individual becomes, the more the purity of the intent is manifest in their relationship.”

“We will speak a little while about personal unions/relationships in the earth plane. When you are bonding with one, in a sense you bond on different levels. You bond physically, emotionally, energetically and spiritually. In growth relationships as we have named them, the physical, emotional and energetic bonding moves each one into greater and greater awareness of where there are matrices of dependence, where there are incompletes in the child, where there is programming that is webbing and cording which confuses your own natural innate instincts. So you play out with each other those things that you each need to bring to consciousness. As that evolution takes place and each party grows more aware, then there is a choice. As you grow freer, you grow to be more at choice.”

“The consciousness becomes aware of the harmonics between one another, as well as what is dissonant or as yet in the duality of your own programming, so you begin to know the difference. As you do that then you have choice. If there is an intent within the union to continue and a sense of purpose then it will continue at some level or in some form. It may not be the identical form but it will perhaps continue for quite some time. You have all had stories from either friends or personal experiences where there have been divorces or separations and yet there have been long term connections, either painful connections or perhaps even friendship connections. Because the form altered does not mean that the intent was complete. As these relationships evolve or the people evolve, either they form new relationships based on new intent or a continued intent that is reformed that fits the freedom of the individual, or there are new relationships called into being, called into place.”

“The next level of relationship is co-creative rather than pro-creative. Co-creation is the divine intent weaving itself through the interconnection at a spiritual and an energetic level, and as much into the emotional and physical plane as it is to bring each one to greater joy, greater self union with another being, the partner. That frees a tremendous amount of energy for creation, perhaps not of children, although that can happen, but of that which is the divine intent to bring love into forms that can serve the greater whole, the greater good. The creator’s desire has always been to love. To love madly, passionately, as much as any one can take. Look at nature in the springtime, there is a mad passionate co-creation going on. When you open into pure creative energy with intent as a union, a partnership, there is that which ignites within the partnership to bring into form some thing, and that is what each one then begins to feed with their own energetic system, their own love, their own passion. That then is the offspring of the union by intent.”

“Personal relationships also have the opportunity to evolve each one into higher frequencies than can be attained alone. Frequencies of ascended states. The Eastern traditions have long taught certain tantric sexual practices which have always had as the focus the spiritual evolution of the partnering. Rather than going through that route, what is happening now is that ones are becoming open by their own energetic clearing and healing and evolution to these ascended states. Partnering can enhance and magnify that process so that each one is able to receive and move into those levels and embody them physically because of the joy released through the body, simultaneously. So partnering in this way is a great service in this time of evolution. That is what you ones are longing for in your hearts.”

“How many have read romance novels, love stories, or fairy tales where there is a ‘happily ever after’? There is within each of us the desire for ecstasy, for pure joy, pure happiness. That is what is promised, that is what is coming, that is why we don’t give up hope that it will happen. As we evolve there is a naturally occurring moment when we open to true union with the Divine, and surrender into the embrace of the Divine within the lover….a union of the Creator with the embodied creation of this one who has been seen as separate….. a union of the Source with that which has felt the longing to go home, the Divine reunion. That union is an individual experience truly, but it calls itself into manifested form because God does not like to be alone, never has and never will. The nature of Creation is relationship, and by design relationships are essentially Divinely creative.”

“So, we have talked for quite some time giving you a little bit of background into perhaps some of what has been familiar in your life and the patterning and program as well as what is coming in your evolution. Now we would like to hear from you. What would you like to talk about? What would be helpful or clarifying for you in this area?”

HOW DO WE GO ABOUT ATTRACTING THE CO-CREATIVE RELATIONSHIP?

“First you grow in the integrity of your own soul, your own nature, and clear the confusion of the duality programming. A certain amount of time is needed for that to happen. Each of you has gone through relationships designed to help you with that, yes? Certain relationships bring it up and you have to work on it. As you clear these patterns and become more and more an individual centered in your own nature and knowing what happiness feels like for you, you begin to pursue your joy. What attracts most quickly is joy. Put your focus on bringing divine intent into form through you, which always results in joy. That is why following your bliss is a suggestion that many beings and teachers have given because that is in alignment with the divine intent within you and within your energy flowing into earth. So the more you do that and stay open to the interconnections that will bring you together with others to fulfill those intents, then you will begin to see how the unions work. Unions may not always be a partnership on a sexual level, but they may have a great degree of intimacy to fulfill a certain amount of intent, and you may be preparing to meet one who will lift you into those planes of ecstasy. You can’t jump into ecstasy, your body can’t handle it, so you grow into it. We are answering your question when we say that you attract such a one by growing in your capacity to embody joy!”

I’M BEGINNING TO NOTICE PATTERNS IN MY RELATIONSHIPS THAT DON’T BRING JOY OR HAPPINESS, AND YET I DON’T SEEM ABLE TO BREAK AWAY. I SEEM TO SEE-SAW AND GET MUDDLED.

“The initial programming is so familiar and so much a part of you, yet as you become conscious you begin to recognize the pattern. What usually has to happen is that you need to go down to the place where the core programming has taken place because in that place is the safety in that programming. A child attaches to the ones that are in the immediate family for safety, for survival, and at a very base level those cords are rooted down in the root center. They come through the third center but they attach within down in the survival instinctive nature. Because if a child did not have parents, the child would die. So it is deep and rooted. So ask your Being to guide you to the roots of the program of the fear, of the child’s need for safety. See who you are attached to most strongly in your need for safety. Most often it is the mother, but sometimes it is not, depending on your particular situation. Then look at the cording, the emotional programming that you took on through that primary relationship and see if there are some familiar patterns in the present relationship. Access the child, create for the child a new bonding like we did in the steps earlier. Create a new bonding, a new relationship, give the child a new mother, if need be, that you form of Love out of the Great Mother. You grow a new matrix and then you’ll find it easier to step out of the old patterning, because the child will not pull you back in.”

THERE SEEMS TO BE A LOT OF CORDING WITH MY MOTHER AND IT’S HARD TO SEE WHAT ALL IS THERE?

“With intent, any time you ask with intent to go to the root of your patterning and to seek clearly your truth, your essence, your joy, that which is your truest desire, you will be responded to. You will find that which you need to assist you and it will proceed, even if it means getting in a relationship to see more clearly what it is that you need to see. And then you deal with the feelings and the emotions that arise as a result. Truly seek joy. Sincerely place that at the center of your heart and all else will begin to clear so that that true desire will be realized.”

WHAT IF THESE SOURCES OF JOY IN A RELATIONSHIP ARE SEPARATE AND YOU FIND YOURSELF SEEKING JOY FROM A DIFFERENT PLACE THAN YOUR PARTNER?

“There is a time when each one has to find their own sense of self, their integrity and their joy. So in relationships sometimes there is a sort of separating, a sort of movement into a singular focus in order to establish the core resonance of self and in some ways needing that kind of separateness. However, if it stays there then there will be a sense of distancing emotionally, gradually, because the intent may not be strong enough to hold the two into a unit for creation. So at this point, where there are places where the individuals are finding joy, then look to the intent within the relationship. There is a place where you can come together to do that to see whether there is something that feels as if there is a gradual weaving of the souls into a greater purpose, a greater good, a greater intent. If there is, you will feel a re-energizing that feels brand new because it will be new. If there is not, then there may be more and more of a separation and the intent for creation may come together with others. It is still a choice of how you wish to be in form with another, but this time is one of weaving ones together for the purpose of creation with the greatest amount of joy manifesting in the body for each person. That is what you are evolving to, and sometimes relationships are together for a purpose for a time and then they don’t have the same intent beyond that time. That is for you to discern.”

WHEN DO YOU STOP QUESTIONING YOURSELF? HOW DO YOU DISCERN?

“You ask your heart to tell you truly what is the truth in this and as you receive the impulse and the answer, you trust it. It is then that you stop doubting and say “I receive this”. As soon as you act on that which is received in your heart, as soon as you put it into motion, communicate it, speak it, act it, then your heart is free to give you more information, more truth, more of self. When you question yourself and stop the action, then your heart can’t keep giving you more information because it has given you this much. So if you have doubt, then one more time ask for the truth and act on it or communicate it or whatever. Do you see? You stop doubting when you ask and you act. You will find out very quickly because your being is acting through you and if there is no intent in it, if it is a shallow desire, it won’t work. It is getting that clear and there will be a block, something that will interfere. So if you get to a place of doubt then ask one more time, and if you get the answer you’ve been getting for a while then that’s the truth for now and you won’t get more until you act on it.”

WHEN MY PARTNER WAS THOUSANDS OF MILES AWAY I DIDN’T MISS HIM BUT NOW THAT HE’S ONLY A HUNDRED AND THIRTY MILES AWAY I AM FEELING DIFFERENTLY. COULD YOU GIVE ME SOME INSIGHT ON THAT?

“In the period of time when there was a spatial separation there was also a necessary energetic separation because each of you needed to do what we spoke of a little earlier. You needed to break out of that which had been the configuration that had been familiar and woven out of your old patterning, and each come to a sense of your own center, your own true emotional makeup. As that happens then there is a sense of coming back together. If there is an intent within the relationship, within the configuration, then that will move you into a new energetic configuration at a new level and you will feel that hook-up. It is not at the astral /emotional plane, it is at the energetic/spiritual plane and you yet feel emotion because you are yet a feeling being, but you will find that if you ask and allow the intent to emerge there will be a different feeling than the old emotional patterning.”

COULD YOU COMMENT ON SOUL MATES AND TWIN SOULS?

“Soul mates are those that have a familiar vibrational make up at a solar and spirit level in the sense that they feel quite similarly. Usually their emotional feeling energetics are quite similar in the patternings. When the configuration is matched in a spirit sense it moves ones quite quickly or even more quickly than usual into ascended states because of the configuration on the emotional plane that then helps embodiment. It helps the embodiment manifest in greater momentum. Soul mates come together for that purpose often after a period of time when the ones have done a lot of the emotional dualistic work with others, then there is a soul mate joining for the evolution of the great joy. There is more than one soul mate possible in the earth plane at one point in time and yet the soul longs for that which will bring you to the highest resonance in the most efficient manner, because at the soul level everyone is very efficient. So you seek that one and that one seeks you that is of that resonance.”

“Twin flames is another matter. Often the original impulse of the creator that manifested individuation of itself was a whole being, and the first cells split into two, and that was part of the dualistic nature that was then brought into ever increasing density manifesting in the earth and its polarities. What is now happening is that the twin parts are coming together. They are not truly two beings, they are one, and as you evolve that which has been separate from you longs for fullness and wholeness with you. Most often that has not manifested in a separate body although at times that separate aspect of yourself has manifested in a separate body. Most often there is one in spirit and one on earth and as this evolutionary path is being completed back to source then there is a joining with the twin and each one comes into a full union before there is full union with the Source again.”

“Twin is one way to say another half of self. A matched version of yourself, but the opposite, the other side of you that longs for completion within. That is what you are doing. As you ascend, it descends. It is coming in and down as you are expanding up and opening to receive. That is the Divine union that we speak of. Before you truly unify with Source you unify with yourself. Those that teach that twin flames are in a sense separate beings usually have misunderstood the evolutionary path of the soul, they don’t put it in that context, they see it only in terms of relational context.”

HOW DO I GET BEYOND FEELING THE NEED TO ACT OUT MY OLD SELF AND LIMITING MYSELF WHEN INTERACTING WITH THOSE WHO ONLY KNOW MY OLD SELF?

“Give yourself permission to be your true self, your inner self which has longed to be free to be who you are in whatever situations you are in. Begin to connect to her, relate to her, and give her much love and assurance that you will be with this one, and that you will be in union with this one that has been afraid to be self in others presence. Strengthen the part of you that has been afraid to be visible with them. Strengthen her, give to her all that she needs in assurance and affirmation so that when you are with others you will speak when you speak, and you will not speak when you don’t feel like speaking. There will not be the sense of being drawn into their patterning, but an ability to stand there and observe and be yourself more. You may not wish to say everything, because they cannot hear it. In fact, the truth is pulled from you by the receiver and if you try to force your truth on another who is not able to receive it, they either will not hear it or it could even be painful to you. So be alert to what feels like what you wish to say and what you don’t. That is being true to your self.”

DOES RELEASING THE CORDING FROM MY MOTHER MEAN THAT I WOULD BE DETACHING MYSELF FROM HER AND NO LONGER BE ABLE TO CARE FOR AND LOVE HER?

“The cording we speak of is the astral plane cording. That is the patterning you take on that is in the emotional/astral level that she carried and was then patterned with your father and in whatever unit was formed with you. That is what is released. The bond of love is much freer when the cording is released because then it is not confused with the patterning. Then you see clearly who she is and you love her even more in a sense because there are not the hooks or other things that pull you into this denser level. The love and spirit connection remains.”

THERE SEEMS TO BE A COMPLEX ARRAY OF CORDING WITHIN MY FAMILY. WE ARE TRYING TO HEAL THIS, ESPECIALLY MY SISTER AND I. HAVE YOU ANY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO FREE THIS?

“When one in the family is born with a significant amount of need then they end up cording significantly to, if not everyone, certain ones in particular to meet those needs. That is where it forms, and at a certain point you realize that you no longer can be in that pattern with that one. They are at a point where they need to come to realize they must learn to meet their own needs through their own connections to the source through their own heart. Sometimes those separations are made energetically, and sometimes even physically, until there is a shift of realization and they find other ways to meet those needs, or until they awaken to their own conscious patterning. When you awaken, then it is time for you to discern what is best for you. Sometimes the cording will remain if your spirits have agreed that there is a longer time needed and then you just allow that, knowing that there is yet service to be given in that way. Often times that is the case with children or sometimes children with parents that the cording, even at an astral level, remains for a time until the child is strong enough for the kind of autonomy and growth that they take on for themselves. Sometimes there are weak individuals that come into this plane very weakened from previous lifetimes who cord strongly in order to stay here long enough to do what they need to to do.”

DOES THAT MEAN THAT IT COULD BE HARMFUL IF I DE-CORD FROM SUCH A PERSON?

“You ask. Go to the spirit level and ask if this is for the highest good to be removed now and you will know.”

I HAVE A REAL HARD TIME WITH MY SISTER. HOW IS IT THAT OTHER PEOPLE’S SISTERS CAN BE THEIR BEST FRIENDS BUT NOT MINE?

“We will speak to you, but we will speak of something else that surfaces through your question. You and your sister have a very different emotional make up. You have a very different emotional energetic pattern so that there are very few places of matching with you. That happens sometimes in families where siblings come into a family that is supposed to be a unit, but they are very different and they have very little compatibility or emotional interconnection. In fact, it is really hard even to form a good bond even though at a spirit level there is love. At the emotional level it is difficult to form because the energy systems don’t match. So don’t try. Let go. Then you are more peaceful for there is no more expectation that it be there, and in truth it is not available. If each person, however, moves to a soul level and evolves to that level which is possible, then there is a meeting at a level that is beyond the emotional plane. Then there can be a connection made, but if both do not do that then it is not very likely.”

I’VE HAD TRAUMA EARLY IN MY LIFE AND I NOW FEEL FRAGMENTED AS IF THERE ARE OTHER ASPECTS OF ME THAT ARE AROUND/OUTSIDE OF ME. I AM NOT SURE HOW TO GET MYSELF BACK TOGETHER. CAN YOU COMMENT?

“At the ascended level/spirit level there is no fragmentation. That is the place of unity. In the energetic and astral levels there can be fragmentation, particularly if there is early trauma, as you said. Then there is a splitting of the self, and it can split into several fragments. They are not fully conscious of each other, and also there is a separation sometimes energetically, not always, but sometimes. That is what you are describing. What happens in the healing process is that as one becomes aware of this, then you begin to access the unified spirit. You open to your own unification ‘ray’. That which is indivisible, that which will re-establish the resonance of the core tone that comes directly from spirit. That core tone then begins to call home all that has been split off in the unconscious, in the energetic and astral levels. It begins to call home to center. If there is not a central core or tone then the work that you do will bring it closer and into consciousness, but it will not know where to fit into the whole, so it will still feel that you are managing a whole bunch of beings or trying to sort of keep track of them all in a complex way. You will feel as if you are not cohesive. Seek the pure tone, the core tone of your indivisible spirit through the center of your being and let that call everything into its rightful place. You’ve done quite a bit of work, and it is not as if these aspects are unknown to you.”

HOW DO WE GET TO CHOOSE OUR BIRTH FAMILY, I DON’T SEEM TO HAVE MUCH AFFINITY WITH MINE?

“Well, in this time there have been some different situations than in past times. Truly this has been a unique time, partly because we are in a completion and those who are volunteering to come in volunteered for parts to take on. Your part in the evolution was to transmute certain patterns in the energetic/emotional/astral planes. So some of you chose karmic patterns that would serve you, and you may have chosen by the pattern rather than the individuals. They may not be familiar to you but they held the pattern that you came in to transmute. You volunteered for the job. So you may not have a great amount of affinity with your family, but you used their matrix to do your part. Then when you’re done with it you don’t feel a great need to stay connected with them. But you may through choice…. or not. It does not truly matter.”

I, TOO, FEEL LITTLE AFFINITY WITH MY FAMILY AND A MEMBER OF MY FAMILY HAS RECENTLY DIED. I’M NOW BEING ACCUSED OF BEING COLD AND CLINICAL AS I HAVE A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT OUTLOOK ON LIFE AND DEATH THAN THEY DO, AND I’M NOT SITTING AROUND WEEPING AND WAILING. I AM GOING TO BE WITH THEM TOMORROW. HAVE YOU ANY SUGGESTIONS AS TO HOW I CAN BE WITH THEM IN HARMONY?

“Realize that who you are is a great energy field of love, and that is what you bring to this setting. You bring love and you sit there with that love and allow that love to serve whatever the needs are in this family. Your responses are your own and others will focus on you because they are in grief, because they are in fear, because they do not have a sense of themselves very clearly. Sometimes in traumatic or difficult situations it is even easier to focus on another. Do not take it on. Allow the love to assist you, too, and wrap it around your heart or any places that feel vulnerable and protect yourself, if need be, from such energetic attack. But allow your heart to be open.”

I FEEL LIKE A BRIGHT LIGHT IN SOME SITUATIONS AND FIND MYSELF BEING DRAWN INTO THE DENSENESS SURROUNDING ME AND END UP FEELING DRAINED. HOW CAN I PROTECT MYSELF AND REMAIN OPEN?

“As you grow lighter, those that have yet to find that light themselves find the light of others irresistible. There is a longing to find this light. This has happened for centuries when ones have attached themselves to great beings, gurus, or teachers, and have found it difficult to let go. Realize, however, that you are not the source for another. If you are identifying yourself as the source then you are going to feel as if you are the source, and it will drain you. It is a challenge to remove you from your identification as the source and to allow yourself to be in an expanded state wherein there is no draining, wherein you are beyond the cording that is typical on this plane. Because if you identify with self as source you yet hold yourself in the astral physical plane. If you allow yourself to identify with Source Spirit and are no longer attached to being the source for others, then you find that it is relatively easy and you meet each one where they are at and then you move on. You give in the moment and then move on. There is a sense of connection, but not a draining one, because it is not at a personal level.”

HOW DOES OUR SPIRIT/MATTER INTEGRATION AFFECT OUR SEXUALITY?

“The integration process responds primarily to resonances of joy. The cells have held resonances of pain and of the matrices of the emotional patterning of fear. Sexuality is an avenue where there is an opening into the body that the body recognizes as pleasure. When there is a harmonious co-creative intent within the union, then that union in the physical sense becomes more and more a charge of energy. The body can respond to this charge with its ability to release the density and re-configure in the pattern of joy. More and more the sexual union becomes an experience of mutual joy that individually assists each one in an integration process and also assists each one in an ascension union with soul, or the other aspect of self that is coming to union. This simultaneously enhances the union, which creates more energy with the intent to manifest into form. That is why the sacredness of a union is part of the experience of true Creator within Creation. It is not necessary to have a partner, but in this time there is a greater ease of the integration with partnering, and it is also because there is the intent of the Creator not to create alone. The Creator is not a solitary being. It is all consciousness, and the desire is for union of consciousness and the union of creation in created form, and the desire for ecstasy. So sexual union and ecstasy go together rather well when things are cleared up enough to experience it and move the energy into co-creation.”

Closing Visualization

“In closing we offer a visualization for you. Relax your breathing, your thoughts, your bodies, and breathe deeply.
Imagine your guardian angel standing behind you with their hands just over your head. Feel them sending into your energy field a very pure, gentle, light of love and harmony to assist your integration. See the light as pink and golden with tinges of green and flashes of different rainbow colors. Allow yourself to receive, and relax and breathe. Any place in your body that feels a little resistance or is tense, breathe into that area and let your angel pour extra light into that place. Sense the very gentle pure harmony of this gifting. After the harmony has been received your angel will gently bathe you with frequencies of joy that your body, your emotions, your soul, has been asking and longing for. Let yourself relax further and drift into those places of joy……. imagining, dancing, singing, beautiful sunrises, whatever have been memories of joy all magnified…..and then release these into the experience of being joy.”

“We thank each of you for the choices you made to come into the earth plane to take on the astral patterning and to transmute it through your willingness to love. For your choice to love, your choice to grow conscious, even if it was painful and difficult and others did not understand, we are grateful. We recognize who you are and the great work you have done. We invite you into this experience of fulfillment. The longing indeed can be over, the union indeed can be your fulfillment and indeed joy is your natural state. Open to all of who you are and allow the Creator, the Source, to weave ecstasy in you and through you and with others that you unify with to bring love and joy into forms that the earth has not yet seen. Blessings to each of you. Let yourselves rest and drink lots of water and continue to open to whatever will bring your soul’s longing into fulfillment and your desire for joy into reality.”

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